When all else fails, stay in bed: what to do when life gets you down

Posted: September 1, 2013 in Wellbeing
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Today nothing went right. It’s Father’s Day in Australia, and my parents were flying back from Queensland. I wanted to surprise my Dad at the airport but their flight was delayed. Then I went for lunch and everywhere was booked (NEVER try to go for lunch on Father’s Day, unless you’ve booked somewhere). Then we finally found somewhere and they didn’t bring us menus for 10 minutes, and still hadn’t come over to take our order when we decided we’d had enough and left 15 minutes later. Then the door handle fell off the balcony door at home. And so on and so on…

We’ve all had days where nothing goes right. Sometimes there’s whole weeks where life sh*ts on you from a great height.  And it’s hard sometimes to pull yourself out of the bad mood that goes with it. Even worse are the days where the existential crisis hits – “what am I doing with my life?”, etc.


Don’t panic. Everyone has days like this. Some people have YEARS like this. I’m currently trying to get over my negative self-talk and start up a part-time business. Other people I know are having health issues, work issues, trouble finding a lasting relationship … I could go on. My point is: everyone, whether ‘successful’ or nor, is dealing with crap every day of their life.

Well fine, you say, but how do you combat the down times we all come up against? These are some of the ways I get out of a funk. And by no means do they always work, but they’re worth a try, right?

  • Exercise. I know, predictable. But the endorphins after exercise seriously make you feel better. And if they don’t, at least you’ll look fit while you’re sad/angry/down.
  • Read a book. Ok, I am a book nerd, but I think this works for a lot of people – when you escape into a good book, you forget your own problems for a while at least. This also goes for watching films.
  • Speak to your significant other or call your mum, dad, sister, brother, friend, random person you met the other day. And just vent. This is probably my favourite way of getting rid of bad moods. It also helps you get a different perspective on your problems.
  • Cook. I like baking, or making a soup which requires slow-cooking so it’s a project to get into.
  • Go to the beach and stare out at the ocean. Even in the middle of winter, even in the rain, this can be cathartic.
  • Write a list. A list of the negative and positive elements of your life, or a To Do list for a positive project or a new direction, or a list to help you make a decision. I love lists – they focus you and give you an action plan.
  • Get a massage. It’s good for your body AND mind. I once had a remedial massage therapist who talked all the way through the massage, about how we keep negative feelings inside our body, and at the end of the massage I felt like I’d just walked out of a counselling session, refreshed and energised.
  • Look at old photos. I like doing this. Not only do you see how far you’ve come but you remember good times.
  • Clean. I find this particularly therapeutic for problems that can’t really be solved but you want to not think about them for a while. Admittedly, this isn’t for everyone 🙂
  • Do something you’ve not done before. Whether it’s being a tourist in your own city, going paddle boarding, attending a yoga class or trying a new food, it will get you out of your comfort zone and might make you realise you CAN do anything you want to do, you just have to try.

Need a bit more motivation to help you get out of a funk? Check out these words of wisdom from Andre Jordan – a man who has been on a very interesting journey through depression and is living his life in a very different way now:

 

Most of us don’t give ourselves enough credit. We are actually pretty bloody brilliant! So you know what, try thinking of all the awesome things you’ve done in your life, who you’ve met, what impact you’ve had on the people around you. And if you think that needs work – begin. It’s not going to be easy, but as Katherine Hepburn said – life is hard. After all, it kills us.

What does success look like?

Do you have any tips for getting through difficult periods in your life? Any ideas for things you can do to get out of a funk?

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

 

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Comments
  1. Great post! Yes to venting and cleaning, those are my favourite ways to get through a bad day – and of course a warm bubble bath and face mask, because a bit of self indulgence always helps!

  2. Mands says:

    Thanks for this post. I like to book a mini break (or even better, a proper holiday!) to get out of the funk.
    xx

  3. Mands says:

    Oh, and yes go up the beach and stare at the ocean, better still, go to the beach and go for a dip. Even a brisk dip in winter will help you!

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