Posts Tagged ‘babies’

It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of having your first baby. What will it look like, what will you name it, will you ever sleep again? But in all seriousness, there needs to be a bit of discussion going on about the big picture before bub comes along, because let me tell you, there ain’t a whole lot of time to talk when you’re dealing with a new, tiny human 24/7. In my humble opinion, here are the things you need to make sure you’re clear on BEFORE the baby comes, if you’re in a relationship…

holding baby's hand

  1. Discuss how you want to parent – Look at how you were raised, and talk about your thoughts around discipline, displaying affection and gender roles. Are you both going to be on the same page? You may have been raised in a very loving environment, where you were always told that you were loved, whereas your partner may have never heard ‘I love you’ from their parents before in their life. As a woman, were you made to feel that you were equal to the men in your family? How will that impact how you raise your own children, and the messages you send to them?
  2. Discuss practicalities around your living arrangements – Do you need to move to a larger apartment or house? Do you want to stay living in the area you’re currently in, or do you want to move closer to family, friends or a support network? Can you afford to rent where you are, or pay the mortgage on one wage?
  3. Discuss money – Do you have a joint bank account already set up? What will you do when the main stay-at-home parent needs money for groceries, activities and everyday needs (like coffee, you always need coffee)?
  4. Discuss your relationship – When a baby comes along, you will be absorbed in that baby 24hrs a day, 7 days a week. Get in some couple time before you have a baby, and commit to making time for each other before you have the baby. Acknowledge that having a baby is not the sole responsibility of the woman actually having the baby, and that both parents need to be elbow-deep in poo and milk if you are going to get through it sane. Discuss what might happen after the baby is born in regards to the primary caregiver returning to work, but be prepared for plans to change (mine did).
  5. And of course the fun discussion: baby names – This will take time. You will LOVE one name, while it might remind your partner of  a colleague who annoyed the sh*t out of them, so that one will be ruled out. Compose a shortlist and see what comes up. Most of all, enjoy the quiet time while you still can.

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

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When I was pregnant with Harrison, I knew I had to pack a bag for the hospital and have it ready to go for when the moment came and little Googie (as we called him then) decided to make his appearance. So I started obsessively Googling what to pack in your bag. I packed everything ever suggested, and I really only needed a fraction of what I took. Some lists posted on popular baby sites even suggested you take a book, for those lulls in between contractions. I’M SORRY?!? Lulls in between contractions? THERE WEREN’T ANY!

So after I settled into having my new baby at home, I pulled together my mini ebook on pregnancy – check it out here – and whittled down the hospital packing list to the essentials.

And these are my suggestions for what to pack in your hospital bag:

    • Paperwork – your yellow card, ID, Medicare card, health insurance card, etc.
    • Lip balm
    • Hair bands/clips
    • Water bottle
    • Phone charger
    • Gatorade
    • Spare clothes for yourself and your partner for about 3 days, just in case.
    • Snack food – jelly beans are good. Not much else is.
    • Thongs/flip flops
    • iPod dock/iPod (with a good playlist on it. I still can’t talk about the fact that ‘Sexual Healing’ by Marvin Gaye came on Rob’s iPod just as I began pushing. At least it gave the midwives a laugh).
    • Heat pack
    • Socks – it can be damn cold in the hospital.
    • Singlet tops (get the Bonds nursing ones).
    • Mints/chewing gum
    • Shampoo/Conditioner/Shower gel/Moisturiser.
    • Clothes to wear home
    • Makeup – if you can be bothered.
    • Deodorant
    • Baby wipes
    • Maternity pads x 3 packs.
    • Black granny pants – at least 5 pairs. You don’t know how long you’ll be in hospital for
    • Pjs with easy access for breastfeeding.
    • Ural
    • Hairbrush
    • Nursing bras x 2
    • Dressing gown
    • Slippers
    • Nursing pads
    • Toothbrush/Toothpaste
    • Plastic bags for dirty clothes
    • Mouthwash
    • Nappies
    • Singlets x 3 for baby
    • Onesies x 3 for baby (0000 and 000 size)
    • Baby hat
    • Mittens
    • Blanket
    • Wrap
    • Baby socks

Definitely don’t take a book, magazine or any sort of entertainment for yourself. You’ll be too busy staring at your newborn baby, wondering how on earth someone so small can make such loud and strange grunting noises. It’s a newborn thing.
I just cry and boobs appear
Is there anything you’d suggest packing to help with labour and your hospital stay? I’d love to hear any other suggestions.

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

Ok, so I have been lucky enough not to suffer from morning sickness through the first trimester, unlike 70% of the pregnant population, but I have to tell you – THERE ARE THINGS WORSE THAN MORNING SICKNESS.

I’m sure my previously pregnant friends (and actually I don’t have a lot of those – most people I know are still childless and loving it) didn’t have the same feelings, thoughts and symptoms throughout their pregnancies, but I honestly had no idea these things could happen. Read on and find out what SUPER FUN THINGS might be in store for you (if you’re female and plan on having kids)…

pregnancy meme

1) You will be very very very very angry. And sad. Sometimes both at once.

2) You will be very very very very resentful of ‘ordinary’ people – those that can drink wine, eat feta until it’s coming out their ears, and eat poached eggs for breakfast EVERY GODDAMN DAY.

3) Your skin will change. Like, massively. Freckles are appearing where my skin has never even seen the sun, and don’t get me started with the dry, itchy skin.

4) If you’ve never been overweight or put on much weight, the fact that you now have a belly is going to be hard to come to terms with.

5) Although most doctors say you can have the occasional glass of wine, if you attempt to have even one tiny glass every sip will feel like you are killing your baby. The guilt – it starts early.

6) They say you’ll be tired. You think yeah, sure, I’ll just eat super healthy and exercise. And then you get Nutella cravings and eat a whole tub in 2 nights, and sprain your ankle and are unable to exercise. And you go to sleep at 8.30pm like you’re 10 years old or something.

7) You can’t get your heart rate above 150 bpm. NO ONE TOLD ME THAT. I saw pregnant women exercising, but now I look back on it they were never sweating. That’s because you can’t get overheated or the baby gets overheated and distressed. So consequently, you’re basically stuck doing nothing that will burn fat or give you nice endorphin rushes for 9 months.

8) You will feel actual pain in your stomach muscles. Like muscle cramps. Every day. I guess it’s the muscles and skin stretching but it’s uncomfortable and sore.

9) You will feel an incurable urge to watch One Born Every Minute. Even though it scares you and it’s gross and you know you shouldn’t. You just keep on going back.

10) At the end of the day, people can give you advice and be there to talk, but you are going to have to physically build, house and give birth to this baby on your own. And that’s a pretty massive thing to have to deal with. Especially for someone who has only ever had to look after themselves (and often done even that quite badly!) for 32 years.

Of course it’s not all resentment and sore boobs. But mostly it is.

evicted at birth

Anyone have any nice pregnancy side effects they’ve encountered?

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

You may have noticed I haven’t posted for a hell of a long time. Almost 2 months to be exact. Well, there’s been a good reason for that and here it is…

Our baby at 12 weeks old

Our baby at 12 weeks old

Yep, you read right – I’m up the duff. Bun in the oven. Knocked up. All that. And here he/she is, just chilling, laying around and having a nice old holiday in my belly. It still feels weird to think that it’s growing inside me. Weird, but cool.

And while this pregnancy was planned, let’s just say neither of us thought it would happen quite so quickly! The first time in fact (cue jokes about good swimmers). We’ll be having a 5 month old join us on the walk down the aisle next year, and a whole load of babysitters at the wedding! Lucky we’re getting married in a winery – we may need all the booze we can get 🙂

It was that easy...

It was that easy…

Now, down to the exercise part of this post. Basically, I have had to drastically alter what I’ve been doing. Like, DRASTICALLY. Not only does no one tell you that you shouldn’t elevate your heart rate about 150 bpm (which basically means you can’t do anything more strenuous than walking!), they also don’t tell you that if you try to do exercise you’ll either feel dizzy, or get super tired. Well, no one told me anyway.

Luckily I haven’t had any morning sickness, but I have been super moody and up and down emotionally, as well as hungry ALL THE TIME, so exercise has not been my priority, especially when I can’t even work up a sweat.

As a result, I am still going to the gym twice a week, but just walking on the treadmill or using the bike and doing light weights. No high impact cardio, no interval training, nothing that actually burns fat. I can’t pretend it hasn’t been getting me down – after being so fit for so long, I hate to see it going to waste. But I am have embraced swimming in the local pool, and signed up for pre-natal pilates so that’s something.

But do you want to know the worst thing by far? Not being able to tell anyone! Your risk of miscarriage is 25% until week 12, and now it’s week 13 and it’s gone down to 2% which makes me feel slightly better. But still there’s always that risk.

This baby has gone through a lot – I got made redundant, had the worst bout of gastro I’ve ever had in my life, started a new (highly stressful) job AND drank heavily several times before I realised I was pregnant, so he/she is certainly a fighter. Personally I think it’s a boy, but we find out for sure on 3rd January.

Exciting times…

I can't promise there won't be several preggers-related posts...but you'll still love me, right?

I can’t promise there won’t be several preggers-related posts…but you’ll still love me, right?

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x