Posts Tagged ‘pregnancy’

It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of having your first baby. What will it look like, what will you name it, will you ever sleep again? But in all seriousness, there needs to be a bit of discussion going on about the big picture before bub comes along, because let me tell you, there ain’t a whole lot of time to talk when you’re dealing with a new, tiny human 24/7. In my humble opinion, here are the things you need to make sure you’re clear on BEFORE the baby comes, if you’re in a relationship…

holding baby's hand

  1. Discuss how you want to parent – Look at how you were raised, and talk about your thoughts around discipline, displaying affection and gender roles. Are you both going to be on the same page? You may have been raised in a very loving environment, where you were always told that you were loved, whereas your partner may have never heard ‘I love you’ from their parents before in their life. As a woman, were you made to feel that you were equal to the men in your family? How will that impact how you raise your own children, and the messages you send to them?
  2. Discuss practicalities around your living arrangements – Do you need to move to a larger apartment or house? Do you want to stay living in the area you’re currently in, or do you want to move closer to family, friends or a support network? Can you afford to rent where you are, or pay the mortgage on one wage?
  3. Discuss money – Do you have a joint bank account already set up? What will you do when the main stay-at-home parent needs money for groceries, activities and everyday needs (like coffee, you always need coffee)?
  4. Discuss your relationship – When a baby comes along, you will be absorbed in that baby 24hrs a day, 7 days a week. Get in some couple time before you have a baby, and commit to making time for each other before you have the baby. Acknowledge that having a baby is not the sole responsibility of the woman actually having the baby, and that both parents need to be elbow-deep in poo and milk if you are going to get through it sane. Discuss what might happen after the baby is born in regards to the primary caregiver returning to work, but be prepared for plans to change (mine did).
  5. And of course the fun discussion: baby names – This will take time. You will LOVE one name, while it might remind your partner of  a colleague who annoyed the sh*t out of them, so that one will be ruled out. Compose a shortlist and see what comes up. Most of all, enjoy the quiet time while you still can.

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

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When I was pregnant with Harrison, I knew I had to pack a bag for the hospital and have it ready to go for when the moment came and little Googie (as we called him then) decided to make his appearance. So I started obsessively Googling what to pack in your bag. I packed everything ever suggested, and I really only needed a fraction of what I took. Some lists posted on popular baby sites even suggested you take a book, for those lulls in between contractions. I’M SORRY?!? Lulls in between contractions? THERE WEREN’T ANY!

So after I settled into having my new baby at home, I pulled together my mini ebook on pregnancy – check it out here – and whittled down the hospital packing list to the essentials.

And these are my suggestions for what to pack in your hospital bag:

    • Paperwork – your yellow card, ID, Medicare card, health insurance card, etc.
    • Lip balm
    • Hair bands/clips
    • Water bottle
    • Phone charger
    • Gatorade
    • Spare clothes for yourself and your partner for about 3 days, just in case.
    • Snack food – jelly beans are good. Not much else is.
    • Thongs/flip flops
    • iPod dock/iPod (with a good playlist on it. I still can’t talk about the fact that ‘Sexual Healing’ by Marvin Gaye came on Rob’s iPod just as I began pushing. At least it gave the midwives a laugh).
    • Heat pack
    • Socks – it can be damn cold in the hospital.
    • Singlet tops (get the Bonds nursing ones).
    • Mints/chewing gum
    • Shampoo/Conditioner/Shower gel/Moisturiser.
    • Clothes to wear home
    • Makeup – if you can be bothered.
    • Deodorant
    • Baby wipes
    • Maternity pads x 3 packs.
    • Black granny pants – at least 5 pairs. You don’t know how long you’ll be in hospital for
    • Pjs with easy access for breastfeeding.
    • Ural
    • Hairbrush
    • Nursing bras x 2
    • Dressing gown
    • Slippers
    • Nursing pads
    • Toothbrush/Toothpaste
    • Plastic bags for dirty clothes
    • Mouthwash
    • Nappies
    • Singlets x 3 for baby
    • Onesies x 3 for baby (0000 and 000 size)
    • Baby hat
    • Mittens
    • Blanket
    • Wrap
    • Baby socks

Definitely don’t take a book, magazine or any sort of entertainment for yourself. You’ll be too busy staring at your newborn baby, wondering how on earth someone so small can make such loud and strange grunting noises. It’s a newborn thing.
I just cry and boobs appear
Is there anything you’d suggest packing to help with labour and your hospital stay? I’d love to hear any other suggestions.

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

Well it’s less than 4 weeks until my due date, I’m officially on maternity leave, and I cannot stop cooking!

Now I was no slouch when it came to cooking before I got pregnant, but the baking craze is a relatively recent thing. I’ve been baking a mix of healthy and downright unhealthy cakes, slices and biscuits over the past few weeks, and here are a couple of my absolute favourites. These are both on high rotation in our household right now.

MUESLI SLICE – recipe found here and also below. This one is pretty healthy, but still tastes sweet with the addition of the honey, sultanas and small amount of raw sugar. I’m making this every weekend now, and it gets us both through the week for a mid-morning or afternoon snack. You can use other nuts, seeds or dried fruit if you have it. The best thing about this recipe (apart from how tasty it is) is that it’s super-easy – literally 10 mins prep and it’s in the oven baking away.

Muesli slice

Ingredients

  • 50g butter
  • 1/2 cup raw sugar
  • 1/4 cup honey
  • 200g pepitas (pumpkin seeds)
  • 1 Sanitarium Weet-bix, crushed
  • 1/2 cup sultanas
  • 1/2 cup rolled oats
  • 1/2 cup self-raising flour (I use wholemeal flour)

 

Method

  1. Preheat oven to 170°C. Line a 20cm (base measurement) square cake pan with non-stick baking paper. Place the butter, sugar and honey in a saucepan over medium-low heat. Cook, stirring, for 2-3 minutes or until the mixture is smooth and the sugar has dissolved. Set aside to cool slightly.

  2. Combine the pepitas, Weet-bix, sultanas, oats and flour in a large bowl. Add the butter mixture and stir until combined.

  3. Spoon the mixture into the lined pan and use the back of a spoon to smooth the surface. Bake in oven for 25 minutes or until golden. Set aside in the pan for 30 minutes to cool completely. Cut into slices to serve.

 

WALNUT & CHUNKY CHOC CHIP COOKIES – recipe found here or below. This recipe is also super easy (notice a trend here – I don’t often make anything that requires a million ingredients or hours of prep time) but not quite as good for you as the muesli slice. But walnuts are a super-food, right? And dark choc is good for you 🙂 Speaking of which, I generally just use dark chocolate buttons or melts, instead of going to the hassle of chopping a block of dark choc. Then it’s even quicker to whip these delicious morsels up!

Walnut & chunky choc cookies

Ingredients

  • 125g butter, softened
  • 1/2 cup, firmly packed brown sugar
  • 1 egg, at room temperature
  • 1 1/2 cups plain flour
  • 200g good-quality dark cooking chocolate, coarsely chopped
  • 1 1/2 cups walnut halves, coarsely chopped

 

Method

  1. Preheat oven to 180°C. Line 2 baking trays with non-stick baking paper.

  2. Use an electric beater to beat butter and sugar in a medium bowl until well combined. Add the egg and beat until combined. Sift the flour over the butter mixture and stir with a wooden spoon until well combined. Add the chocolate and walnuts, and stir to combine.

  3. Use your hands to roll tablespoonsful of the cookie mixture into balls. Place the balls, 3cm apart, on prepared trays. Use a fork to flatten slightly. Bake in preheated oven, swapping the trays halfway through cooking, for 20 minutes or until light golden. Remove from oven and set aside to cool on the trays for 5 minutes. Transfer cookies to a wire rack to cool completely.

 

Summer is over, and we’re officially in autumn (although who would know it on days like today – 27 degrees and sunny!). And I can’t say I’m too sorry to see the back of summer – I have to tell you that being a pregnant woman is absolutely the worst when the weather is hot, as your body temperature is already elevated. I’m looking forward to the cooler weather and not being a walking oven anymore. But that’s not all I’m looking forward to. Here’s my seasonal list of things I’m feeling excited and exhilarated by:

  • The baby! Our baby will be born in May, and I can’t bloody wait. And not only because I desperately want to meet the little fella who has been kicking me constantly for the past month or so. I’m also looking forward to eating feta, sleeping on my stomach, being able to paint (or indeed even reach) my own toenails, a glass of red wine, being able to move quickly again without getting breathless (or receiving a kick to the ribs) and runny poached eggs. And I can’t wait to start the next phase of our lives with our own little family. So crazy to think that someone will be calling me Mummy…
The cuteness, it's too much!

The cuteness, it’s too much!

  • Cooler weather. Call me crazy but I want to get out my cardigans, cosy jumpers and boots already. I love autumn and winter fashion – it’s so much more forgiving, not to mention comfortable. And an afternoon walk with a cooling breeze is so much more pleasant than one in the blazing sun. And walking, pilates and swimming is about all I can manage now.
Autumn in Centennial Park

Autumn in Centennial Park

  • The Silkworm by Robert Galbraith (aka J.K. Rowling). This is the second book in this series about a hardboiled private eye in London, and if you are a lover of crime books and haven’t already read this, get on it. It’s out in June, which is technically winter, but hey, the anticipation is building already!
The Silkworm by Robert Galbraith

If its anything like the first book in the series, I’m going to love it…

  • Girls S1. I am late to the party with Girls, and haven’t even watched the first episode of Season 1 yet, but I’ve downloaded the first series and plan on watching it when I’m on maternity leave. You know, in between feeding a baby, eating myself, cleaning, potentially cooking, and sleeping. So it will probably take me several months to watch it.

Lena Dunham in Girls

  • Using the slowcooker. I love my slowcooker. Seriously, it’s probably been one of the best birthday presents I’ve ever received. Admittedly it took me a year to get it out of the box, but since then I’ve not looked back. You just bang all the ingredients in the slowcooker, turn it on and 6-8 hours later you have a delicious meal. And what could be better when you have another human being to look after full-time as well as yourself, than freeing up some time by not have to slave over a hot stove. This season I’ll be cooking hearty chicken and vegetable soup, chilli, lamb shanks, and many other new recipes I hope to discover.

Slowcook all the things

  • 9 months off work. Now before you start turning green with envy, may I remind you that every day of this 9 months will comprise the following: wiping a pooey bottom (not my own), cleaning up puke (also, hopefully, not my own), sleeping for maximum 1 hour at a time, providing nourishment on demand every 3 hours, and attempting to clean and dress myself as well as cleaning, cooking, etc. In actual fact, I’ll be working harder than I ever have in my whole life, but hey, bring it on!

How do I put this...

What are you looking forward to in the coming season?

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x

Ok, so I have been lucky enough not to suffer from morning sickness through the first trimester, unlike 70% of the pregnant population, but I have to tell you – THERE ARE THINGS WORSE THAN MORNING SICKNESS.

I’m sure my previously pregnant friends (and actually I don’t have a lot of those – most people I know are still childless and loving it) didn’t have the same feelings, thoughts and symptoms throughout their pregnancies, but I honestly had no idea these things could happen. Read on and find out what SUPER FUN THINGS might be in store for you (if you’re female and plan on having kids)…

pregnancy meme

1) You will be very very very very angry. And sad. Sometimes both at once.

2) You will be very very very very resentful of ‘ordinary’ people – those that can drink wine, eat feta until it’s coming out their ears, and eat poached eggs for breakfast EVERY GODDAMN DAY.

3) Your skin will change. Like, massively. Freckles are appearing where my skin has never even seen the sun, and don’t get me started with the dry, itchy skin.

4) If you’ve never been overweight or put on much weight, the fact that you now have a belly is going to be hard to come to terms with.

5) Although most doctors say you can have the occasional glass of wine, if you attempt to have even one tiny glass every sip will feel like you are killing your baby. The guilt – it starts early.

6) They say you’ll be tired. You think yeah, sure, I’ll just eat super healthy and exercise. And then you get Nutella cravings and eat a whole tub in 2 nights, and sprain your ankle and are unable to exercise. And you go to sleep at 8.30pm like you’re 10 years old or something.

7) You can’t get your heart rate above 150 bpm. NO ONE TOLD ME THAT. I saw pregnant women exercising, but now I look back on it they were never sweating. That’s because you can’t get overheated or the baby gets overheated and distressed. So consequently, you’re basically stuck doing nothing that will burn fat or give you nice endorphin rushes for 9 months.

8) You will feel actual pain in your stomach muscles. Like muscle cramps. Every day. I guess it’s the muscles and skin stretching but it’s uncomfortable and sore.

9) You will feel an incurable urge to watch One Born Every Minute. Even though it scares you and it’s gross and you know you shouldn’t. You just keep on going back.

10) At the end of the day, people can give you advice and be there to talk, but you are going to have to physically build, house and give birth to this baby on your own. And that’s a pretty massive thing to have to deal with. Especially for someone who has only ever had to look after themselves (and often done even that quite badly!) for 32 years.

Of course it’s not all resentment and sore boobs. But mostly it is.

evicted at birth

Anyone have any nice pregnancy side effects they’ve encountered?

Stay Fit & Well,
Lisa x